Friedell District-Wide

Middle school


Here at Friedell we take bullying seriously.  We work with bullies, victims, and bystanders to ensure that we build a positive school environment where students are able to deal with conflict in a peaceful manner. 

Please read the information below to get a better sense of what bullying looks like and to see what can be done if your student finds themselves as a victim of bullying. Please let the counselors or any school staff know if you feel you are involved in bullying behaviors (as a victim or bully) or if you feel your student is involved in bullying behaviors.  We can only work with situations of which we are aware!

How do I know if my child is being bullied?

Four O's of Bullying
(How to identify when teasing turns into bullying)

  • Over time- the hurtful treatment continues over a period of time, even after the victim has asked for it to stop

  • One Sided- the hurtful treatment is started and continued by the same person or group of people

  • Over Powered- the bully is usually more powerful, either physically or socially

  • On Purpose- the hurtful treatment is done intentionally to the victim

What can you do as a victim?

  • Talk instead of staying silent
  • Try to identify with the bully and why they may be acting the way they are
  • Save any electronic messages (e-mails, notes, texts, Facebook messages, etc.) sent from the bully
  • Develop a strong support network - let friends, family, and school staff support who you are
  • Avoid getting emotional about the situation until you are in a safe space - bullies want to get a reaction out of you
  • Tell a trusted adult
  • Give an unexpected response to the bully like a joke - take the power back by showing the bully you won't respond how they want you to
  • Stand up for yourself - show the bully that you are proud of who you are
  • Don't bully back

Don't be a passive bystander

  • Being a passive bystander only helps to continue a school environment where bullying is accepted and tolerated
  • Stand up for your classmates - show bullies that you stand behind victims and that such behaviors are not tolerated in this community
  • Tell bullies to stop - simple statement but shows the bully the victim is not alone
  • Help a friend to walk away from a situation - they may not feel empowered enough to do it alone
  • Try to distract the bully with a joke or change of topic
  • Provide support for the victim

How do I know if my child is a bully?

If you see these traits (below) in your child or hear from others that your child is bullying, it’s important to look into the issue.  It's also important that you support your student in this struggle and help them to find positive ways to handle emotions and situations with other students.

  • Quick to blame others and unwilling to accept responsibility for their actions at school or at home
  • Lack empathy, compassion, and understanding for others’ feelings
  • Victims of bullying themselves
  • Have undeveloped social skills - struggle to work in groups or communicating feelings to others
  • Want to be in control
  • Struggle to problem-solve effectively - may not see multiple solutions for how to handle feelings of frustration or anger
  • Be frustrated, anxious, or depressed
  • Find themselves trying to fit in with a peer group that encourages bullying

Helpful Links

PACER's National Bullying Prevention Center

Olweus Bullying Prevention Program

Stomp Out Bullying

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